Online dating for millionaire singles

Q: My boyfriend of four months asked me whether I wanted to let him pick out my Christmas gift or whether I wanted to pick it out myself. I told him I trusted his taste and that he should get me whatever he wants. But the truth is, I'm really hoping that he'll get me jewellery. I think it's what boyfriends should get their girlfriends for Christmas. But I'm not sure if he thinks the same way. But how could I tell him that I want jewels? It's not the cheapest kind of gift. How can I drop subtle hints without seeming crass?
Laura

A: You've already blown your opportunity. If you really don't trust his taste, you shouldn't have told him you did. Now you want to manipulate him, right? It's fair to point out things you like in store windows and magazines and ask whether he thinks they're pretty too. Since this is a relatively new relationship, it's not really appropriate to expect costly jewels. You might want to reflect on what your expectations of this fellow are and whether they're realistic.

Why don't you give the guy a break and wait and see what happens? You might be pleasantly surprised. Remember that the only meaningful gifts we have to give are our time and attention. If they translate into jewels, great. But don't discard the attributes that give the relationship real value.

 

Ever wondered what makes guys propose to that girl and not you? Are you under the impression all guys just want to marry supermodels? Or Baywatch look-a-likes? Do you have to be Betty Crocker in the kitchen? Not necessarily. These days, guys now see themselves as more realistic and mature. Read on to see if you have the real characteristics to be his Mrs. Right.

No Divas. Permanent diva like antics will not work. Guys feel threatened by too much princess behaviour. All girls deserve to be treated well and with respect. Most guys need to be reminded once in a while and definitely need to be pulled into line when they turn into cave man. Save the prima donna stuff for when you really need it.

You're the Boss. All smart men figure sooner or later that their lives will be much easier if they leave you in charge. The trick here is to not let the power go to your head. He does not want to be treated like a 5 year old or a puppy dog. Take charge in a sensible and respectful manner. Show him you can take charge without making his life a misery and you will be well on the way to matrimony.

Support his Career. A professional man's whole identity is tied up in his career and success thereof. A guy's career is the first thing in his mind until he is well established in his chosen field of work. He is thinking about his career more than he is thinking about you and your relationship. You need to be able to support him with his career until he reaches a stage where he feels more confident with where he is at in his profession. If you are not happy to wait for this to happen, you should actively only date guys who are already established in their career path.

You can be Spontaneous. Guys like girls who can go with the flow at a moment's notice. Guys like girls who are happy to drink with them or go camping on the spur of the moment. If your guy comes home on Friday excited about some unplanned weekend trip away, you will not be doing yourself any favours if you tell him that it wasn't in your Blackberry for the last 6 months and so therefore you will not be accompanying him, even though you have nothing else really important on. Obviously, guys also really like spontaneous sex.

You know him better than he does. Guys feel comfortable with girls who know more about them than they do. You know all about his school mates, his tattoos, his ex-girlfriends, his hot spots, and his favourite meal. Guys see this as looking out for them and love this sort of nurturing. To them, this is proof that you really love him.

Great Sex. Guys really want a girl who loves sex as much as him. Guys need to feel comfortable with their chosen life partner 's sexual ability because they see their potential wife as the stop to all other sexual encounters. Your guy needs to feel that he can live with just you on a sexual basis for the rest of his life. Keep the sex exciting and unpredictable.

You can handle his mates and his family. What guys really want is for their girlfriend to be able to get on with their mates. Being able to read his mates is a worthy trait for Mrs. Right-to-be. It is not essential to be really close to his family, but you will need to be able to get along and manage them well. Tact and diplomacy are great attributes here.

You are respectful of his money. By encouraging your guy to nurture and save his money, you are showing him that you will be a great life partner. Sure, it's great for him to spend money on you, but you also want him to see that he doesn't need to spend all his cash on you. Your guy's respect for you will increase enormously when he sees that you have some regard for his hard earned cash.

Random acts of kindness. Guys are on the lookout for girls who are potentially too selfish. Girls perceived as being too self absorbed will never make it to wife material. Make sure that every once in a while you do something thoughtful just for him.

Good mother potential. Whether your guy says having children is on his agenda or not, most guys still won't contemplate marrying a girl who looks like she would be a terrible mother. Look around you, do the guys who make disparaging remarks about some girls potential as a mother every marry those girls? No, is the answer to that.

In this day and age, most guys are looking for life partners on an equal footing. Most guys are sensible enough to know that they are not in the leagues of supermodels and the like. By following this dating advice, you are absolutely increasing your chances of having your guy become your husband. Start checking out those diamonds now! To help you find your man, I've researched a lot of resources for good solid tips and this is the one that will best help you get a man.

Good luck,

 

"Should I stay or should I go now?" Can't live without him? Can't live with him? Is he driving you mad? Should you walk away or try and change him? If this sounds like you, then this dating and relationship advice is a must.

We all know that opposites attract. Most dating guides sprout the adage that what attracts us to someone initially, is eventually what we grow to dislike most about them.

Relationships are to some degree all about compromise. The ability to meet halfway is probably the most important dating tip you need to interact with your loved one. But what happens when his annoying traits start to erode your relationship? Can you live with his interfering mother, slobbish mates, gambling habit, binge drinking, flirtatious ways, obsession with his career, overwhelming love of all sports, or whatever else it is that doesn't seem so cute anymore?

The most important relationship tip to remember is your own personal safety. If your boyfriend has any sort of problem that could endanger you physically, emotionally, legally, or financially, then you should leave immediately. You should not be setting yourself up for a life of misery. Here is a helpful article on how to dump your inappropriate boyfriend.

So your life and finances are not in danger, and you are still there. Can you ignore the issue without going mad? The best course of action here is probably to have a chat with your man. Explain to him calmly what it is you don't like and why. Try to have some helpful suggestions as to how he could rectify the problem, in advance. Be prepared to listen to him, as you may be opening a Pandora's box and he might have some complaints about you as well. A great dating technique is to finish the conversation on a positive note with you reinforcing all of his good points so the poor guy doesn't end up feeling like a total loser.

If he is not prepared to listen or to try and acknowledge the issue, then you should take a good hard look at the relationship. This type of behaviour does not bode well for the future.

Ultimately though, you cannot expect someone to totally change their personality for you. If your man does do this he will lose his sense of self and not be the person you were drawn to initially. If you cannot live with his basic fundamentals then you should just leave. There is no point saying to yourself "He would be perfect if only he were more ambitious, smarter, or whatever" because some things just can't be changed.

Basically, if the issue is fixable and your man is happy to rectify it, then great. Well done. Bigger problems that seem to be the basis for all arguments need more work, perhaps in the form of counseling. After this, the decision is yours. Can you live with the same argument for the rest of your life or not? Does the rest of the relationship outweigh this particular issue?

No one is perfect, including you. On the other hand, life is not a dress rehearsal.

Read this dating guide. Follow your heart. Be brave. If he is not going to bring you a life of eternal happiness then start looking for Mr. Right now. Here is a great dating guide to help you on your way.

 

It's easier than you think to become a millionaire. The magic combo? Getting an early start saving and having the discipline not to raid the piggy bank.

 

Here's a simple recipe to become a millionaire:

• Work four summers, starting at age 16
• Save the income in a Roth IRA account
• Invest it in a simple, low-cost equity portfolio
• Simmer slowly for 47 years
• Serve ungarnished (and untaxed) at age 67

This is the first recipe in my new Small Change Millionaire Cookbook, an occasional series of columns with a single purpose -- demonstrating different ways small amounts of money can be turned into a large amount of money. Just as a mere 10 calories a day of additional food can pack on a pound a year, small change can become large amounts of money.

The good news is that money grows faster than fat. Calories don't have the benefit of compound annual growth.

Many people fail to diet because the end goal seems so far away. So it is with saving and investing: Most people fail because it is nearly inconceivable that a few dollars a day or a well-timed gift can be turned into that magical sum.

Start investing with $100. Explore our new ETF center.

Fast-food millionaires
A million dollars. It has such a nice sound.

So let me show you how four summer jobs can become your first million.

Let's suppose that you are 16 years old, in high school, and willing to work. Let's also suppose that you can clear about $2,000 over the course of a summer, if only because a doting grandparent puts money in the Roth while you take your earnings to school. If you invest in a Roth IRA, it will grow, tax-free, for as long as you have the account. All withdrawals from the account after age 59 1/2 will be tax-free.

If your money is invested in common stocks and you achieve the average compound annual rate on large-capitalization U.S. stocks, 10.7%, your account will grow to $9,378 at the end of the fourth year. You will be 20 years old. Invested in the same way, with no additional savings, the account will grow to:

• $25,917 by the time you are 30
• $71,625 by the time you are 40
• $197,943 by the time you are 50
• $547,037 by the time you are 60
• And $1,114,423 by the time you are 67

And you will have started and finished all of your saving before turning age 21.

Worth the risk
Note that this plan does not require investment brilliance. It does depend on two things, an early start and tenacity. If you invested in small company stocks, whose long-term annual return clocks in at 12.5 percent annually, you could have much more money. (Try $2.4 million.) Similarly, you could diversify to reduce your risk and make your 47-year ride more comfortable. But you would do it at the expense of a somewhat lower return.

The "Yes, but" crew will be happy to tell you that $1 million isn't what it used to be. I can remember people telling me this in the '60s. It is as true now as it was then. Millionaires are, well, just dreadfully common.

Even so, the number of millionaires is relatively small. And being a millionaire is a better choice than being a pauper.

The same crew will be happy to tell you that the future won't repeat the past, that SARS, terrorism or some other misfortune will cripple the future, or that we will be crushed by a rising China. Similarly, an actuary might tell you that you have a substantial chance of being dead by 67.

Perhaps.

But so what?

All you've got to risk is four summers.

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Online dating, personals and matchmaking sites have been riding a boom for the past five years. According to the latest Hitwise data True.com is the most popular dating site in the US with 11% market share followed by Singlesnet.com (9.93%), Yahoo! Personals (9.13%) and Match.com (8.22%). True, founded in 2003, has 16 million members and an estimated 3.8 million unique visitors per month. The site is among the top 100 most-visited sites in the US. Another site worth mention is MillionaireCupid.com, it's a US based dating sites for wealthy singles and millionaires as well as attractive singles. They have hundreds of newly registered members every single day.

According to Hitwise 50.8% of the visitors to the dating sites are male. Among the male users the popular sites are ManHunt.net, Adam4Adam, Gay.com Personals, etc. Among the female users, eHarmony, Love Access, Don't Date Him Girl! and LocalHookUpz, WealthySingles are very popular.

New entrants and Innovators

With the larger market reaching saturation in the US, sites are looking at creating niches. Sites like, SeniorPeopleMeet or SeniorsMatch are targeted at the senior citizens. Single Parent Love is targeted at the single parents.

TrekPassion and Golfmates are meant for users with a passion for trekking and golf. Golfmates has more than 3,000 members in the United States, Canada, and Europe. JDate.com is a leading Jewish dating site. MillionaireMatch is aimed at the wealthy and successful singles' dating.

Green Friends is a niche online dating service for people who are into healthy lifestyles, who are vegetarians, and who enjoy outdoors.

 

Don't date if you feel cynical, jaded, or bored with dating because you will no doubt draw in people who perpetuate what you already feel and scare off the decent guys.

 

If you don't want to spend a lot of time wrecking your head over whether he really likes you, whether he'll call, or why he didn't call, keep your knickers on for the first few dates at least. Sex whilst it can be very enjoyable confuses the hell out of things. If you're asking where you stand when you've already had sex…it's too late…

 

Don't date if you are not over your ex. It may feel like the best thing to do is jump back into the saddle after a break up but if you haven't given yourself time to get over it, you are likely to end up sabotaging your dates. It is also likely that the emotions that are still attached to your ex will create drama in itself. Never date until you have reduced your baggage to hand luggage…

 

Don't date if you are already involved with someone. This is a surefire way to create unnecessary drama. Either you're greedy…or just plain foolish but should the person you're already involved with find out, you'll look like a bitch no matter what your reasons.

 

Don't play games. Games really shouldn't enter into the dating and relationship arena unless they're in the bedroom… Otherwise playing games creates unnecessary drama by manipulating people and the outcome of situations. You may feel like you need to test your dates but you're creating a relationship based on misconceptions. And how can you trust what you think you know when you've been playing games? Oh and if your dates suss that you're a date player, you'll come off looking like a childish fool…

 

Avoid emotionally unavailable men (Mr Unavailable's) and Bad Boy Lovers like the plague. They may seem exciting and dramatic at first but you won't be saying that when they've screwed with your head and you no longer know your ass from your elbow.

 

Always tell someone that you're going on a date. If he seems weird, listen to your gut. Meet in an open, public place for the first few dates and keep your spider senses alert for anything that comes across as strange, intense, or stalkery.

 

If he comes with excess baggage that involve a wife or girlfriend, tell him to get lost. Or tell him to come back when he's rid of them. Nuff said.

 

Be careful of multiple dating. It's a tricky business juggling several men and requires you to be very organised. Unless you're anal retentive enough to do the juggling without breaking a sweat…steer clear… Dating is a less stressful when you're not cacking yourself about mixing up names or sending an email or text to the wrong guy.

 

Keep conversations clear of exes, politics and religion on the first few dates. You may think that caring is sharing or that a date is a good place to start a political or religious debate…but really it isn't. Your ex most certainly belongs in the past not on your dates.

 

Easy on the verbal diarrhoea. Communication is not verbalising every waking thought and emotion that you have. This is a serious overload for the person on the receiving end.

 

Don't be bitchy, aloof, confrontational, or aggressive. You may think you come across as independent and self-assured but actually you're coming across as bitchy, aloof, confrontational, or aggressive… They don't exactly scream 'date me'…

 

Say 'No'. Much of the drama that happens with dating arises from not being true to yourself and being agreeable. There is nothing wrong with saying 'no' and it means that you don't have to act happier than you feel.

 

You don't have to say 'I love you'. I'm not saying that people don't mean it when they say it, but often these three words get uttered because people want to move the relationship to where they think it should be. Remember that whilst you may think you mean it, it's best to only say these words when you have all of the building blocks in place for a good relationship. Saying these three words, for instance, to a guy who struggles to remember to call you, is a recipe for disaster.

 

Be careful of Defining The Relationship Talks. Of course these DTR's can be useful but I tend to find that people use these in the absence of judgment and either jump the gun and have the talk too soon, or leave it until it's far too late. Or they have DTR's all the time and this becomes how you both communicate…and that's not good either.

 

Don't try to buy your way or shag your way into someone liking you. One could potentially leave your wallet empty and the other could leave you emotionally empty.

 

Don't date out of desperation because you end up with desperate dates that you end up doing a Fixer Upper or suffering with 'I Can Change Him' syndrome. If you date from an unhappy place when you already have low self-esteem, you will invite men into your life that reduce your self-esteem even further and cater to the insecurities that you already feel.