Online dating for millionaire singles

While Internet dating is still relatively new, it has already earned itself a negative connotation for nerds, being creepy, or just plain awkward. But for some, dating online may increase self-esteem as well as the dating pool.

Online dating has a lot of advantages, said sociology professor Tony Walters.

"But human beings still need face to face interaction no matter how you look at it, especially for establishing a romantic relationship," he said.

Older generations didn't have the Internet, he said. In this generation, people do, and they are more accustomed to online relationships and interacting online.

Many students would prefer to meet potential lovers in person, through friends or in classes.

"There's plenty of people around that you can meet," said senior Marcus Kistler.

Senior Kristen Boyen said she thinks that people look to the Internet for relationships because it is more convenient with less pressure to impress. Dating online may be easier, especially if people are shy, because people aren't getting rejected to their face. Regardless, Boyen avoids the dot-com dating.

"I don't date randoms," she said. "If I meet someone, it's through a friend of a friend, or you become friends."

Dating online can be dangerous. Not only is a person's online identity a mystery, but their intentions could be as well.

Sophomore Becky Thompson said she thinks that online dating should be for older adults.

"When you're older, you know what you're doing," she said. "It's scarier for younger people."

Sophomore Amy Fechner recently made her sister a profile on match.com.

"Dating services aren't as sketchy," she said. "I don't feel like a child molester would go on a dating website."

Junior Cherie Robidous feels that the Internet is an OK place to find a significant other. While she doesn't exactly search the web for friends, she has met a couple of her ex-boyfriends and her current boyfriend online.

In a relationship started online, a person feels like they already know the other person when do meet, Robidous said.

"You can like each other for your personality before your looks," she said.

Just because online relationships skip that first date interview-like routine, doesn't mean that the nerves don't exist.

Even then, the first date is a little awkward, Robidous said. Pictures don't always portray a person's really appearance and most people send photos of themselves at their best. Robidous tries to show her bad picture first, she said.

"If they like me for my bad picture, then they'll like me even more for my better one."

Guys that Robidous meets around town are generally looking for a fling, she said. This is usually indicated on a person's profile.

Robidous doesn't see herself as the dating around for fun type. She wants to find "the one," she said.

"I know that this may not be the best way of doing it, but so far, so good," she said

While dating via keyboard may seem harmless, it still poses dangers. According to online personals watch, dishonesty, stalking and even assault can come from Internet chitchat.

With dangers in mind, when meeting someone for the first time, daters should take precautions. According to the Online personals watch, one should listen to gut instinct, meet in a public place and tell a friend where the meeting will take place. The magazine also recommends keeping personal information personal until onw know they can trust the otherperson.

By taking the necessary precautions and being smart about safety, online dating can be exciting. After all, Mr. or Mrs. Right could be just a click away.

Thuthuka Hlophe, the son of embattled Cape Judge President John Hlophe, claims to be the target of a "love-crazy bitch " who has allegedly sent death threats to his loved ones.

A warrant of arrest is out for Kgomotso Mathabathe, 25, from Sandton, who faces contempt of court charges after allegedly intimidating, harassing and sending death threats to Hlophe's girlfriend, Yandiswa Quwe, and her sister — and ignoring a court order to stop.

Hlophe, 26, a Cape Town businessman, said he received more than 90 missed calls every day from Mathabathe, and claimed she had created a profile for him on a gay website.

"The woman is crazy and I do not feel safe at all," he said. "She is a love-crazy bitch."

On Wednesday, Amanda Goba, 35, a former Muvhango actress and sister to Quwe, applied for a peace order at the Randburg Magistrate's Court to stop Mathabathe harassing her and her sister and threatening to harm her children.

In court papers, Goba claimed that Mathabathe had wrecked her credit profile by opening clothing accounts and buying insurance policies in her name. She also told the court that Mathabathe threatened to set up profiles bearing her name and photograph on Internet dating websites.

But by Friday Mathabathe was already ignoring the court order, Goba told the Sunday Times.

Both Hlophe and Mathabathe said theirs had been a business relationship, but his girlfriend, Yandiswa Quwe, 27, said Mathabathe was bitter because Hlophe had dumped her four years ago.

Quwe, mother of Hlophe's four-month-old baby girl, claimed Mathabathe had called her and sent her SMSs saying that "as long as I'm in the picture, your baby will not live for long".

"She even called me on Thursday to tell me that she bought a gun and that she was going to kill me," said Quwe.

"She said that first it was me, then my sister Amanda — and my brother Bongani was going to be next."

Quwe, who lives in Port Elizabeth, claimed Mathabathe had created a profile in her name on an Internet dating website and "painted it to make me look like a devil".

Hlophe said of Mathabathe: "She claims that I owe her money and the figures keep on changing every day. I honestly don't know where all this comes from."

Hlophe denies ever dating Mathabathe. He said he met her several years ago when he rented a flat to her.

He said that she once even phoned his father, Judge John Hlophe and had sworn at him.

"She even posted messages on a website to say I was dead, and invited people to attend my memorial service," he said.

On Friday, Mathabathe denied all allegations made against her by Hlophe, Goba and Quwe, saying they were false. She said she was not romantically interested in Hlophe and denied they ever dated each other.

She said the reason she called him every day was because he owed her R4500 that he had borrowed from her when he was "broke and unemployed".

She denied ever phoning Quwe or Goba or creating Internet profiles of Hlophe. She also denied calling Hlophe's father.

"I got my dad to phone Judge Hlophe, asking his son to pay me my money. I spoke to Thuthuka's stepmother and she just told me that I must give up as I will never get my money," Mathabathe said.

On Friday, Mathabathe told the Sunday Times that she was unaware of the warrant for her arrest.

Bramley police spokesman Constable Neria Malefetse confirmed that an arrest warrant had been issued for Mathabathe and that she faced charges of contempt of court for allegedly ignoring the peace order.

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When online or "virtual " dating was first introduced in the early ' 90s many singles were skeptical and reluctant to test the waters. It was all so new. Fast forward to 2008 and the obvious signs of evolution are present. Online dating has shed its stigma and is replacing traditional face-to-face meetings. It is quickly becoming the number one way of dating.

Today's singles are busier than ever and don't have much opportunity to mingle. Others have no desire to do the club scene and some cities have a small percentage of available partners. Online dating opens up a whole new world to those searching for a soul mate. One no longer has to settle for what his or her city has to offer, he or she can join a virtual site and connect with people from another state or country—people they would typically never have the opportunity to meet.

Blackpeoplemeet.com, Blacksingles. com, Blackplanet.com, Minglecity. com, Afroromance.com and Ebony-personals.com are just a few of the online dating services. There are hundreds of sites devoted to those seeking true love.

How exactly does an online dating service work? Many sites require you to create a profile that tells who you are, the kind of partner you're seeking and the desired geographical location. Including photos or video clips of yourself will increase the number of responses. When creating your profile don't list everything you're seeking in a partner. Allow some things to unfold naturally as you get to know your prospects.

Internet dating affords you the opportunity to control the pace. You can communicate via e-mail, instant messaging, on the phone or webcam until you feel comfortable enough to meet face-to-face. It is totally up to you.

The Internet provides more anonymity. Therefore, you have to be wise with the information you divulge. At all times be cautious. Here are some tips to follow:

• Do not give out too much personal information.
• Do not use your real name as your screen name. Create something whimsical and fun.
• If you live in a small town but near a big city, list the big city as your location.
• Never list where you work or hang out.
• If someone is genuinely interested in you, the important things can be discussed when you feel comfortable enough to reveal them.

This is not your mother's dating scene. Have fun but be safe.

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It seems that the structure and values of life as we know it have changed in such a drastic way that even dating has become demoralizing.

If you have the misfortune of being a single woman over 40 in today's society, then you know exactly where I'm coming from. I think I just saw a few hands go up.

As women who found ourselves single with young children, we may have put dating on hold until our children were older, with the feeling that there would be enough time. We also held on to the belief that men would be of the same "heart" when we decided to rejoin the dating scene. Well let's just say we were in for a rude awakening.

There are so many of us who do not enjoy going to a bar and have opted, instead, for online dating as we try to persuade ourselves, despite all the unfavorable things we've heard, that "after all, it can't be that bad." Plus, we've heard of many stories with happy endings.

I hate to be the one to concede, but it seems that the Internet is filled with a bunch of grown men over 50 who are trying to reclaim their youth by looking to date girls half their age or playing head games with others. This is not to imply that all men on these dating sites are philanderers, however, some of the biggest offenders are married men posing as divorced or separated men, and others who are just plain uninhibited "players." These men will equip their vehicles with GPS systems in order to travel the distances necessary to pounce upon their current prey.

My advice is: If you find yourself having to use these sites, please listen to your intuition. If something does not feel right, question it. If your questions annoy or make your date uncomfortable, then more than likely that person has a hidden agenda.

This is only my take from a woman's perspective. I'm sure there are men out there who could identify and say that there are women who play the same game.

So in the meantime, ladies, let's keep hope alive by believing that somewhere out there our Mr. Right exists but keep in mind that no one is perfect. We should not become desperate or discouraged because of our age, but instead become educated to the nature of the game.

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London: British Christians seems to have lost their touch with women, and are thus going on dating workshops to improve their technique in everything from chat-up lines to body language so that they can hit the right chord with the opposite sex.

The clergy has said that due to falling numbers and lack of experience in relationships, many churchgoers find it difficult to get a partner and are losing personal skills, such as flirting and reading signals.

So, a large number of Christians are increasingly signing up for internet dating sites, like Christian Connections, and attending special courses designed to make them more successful in turning a first date into a long-term relationship

According to Peter Spalton, known as the dating doctor, churchgoers are usually timid and the course can provide them with tips to appear more attractive.

And with the lessons, they would learn how to greet someone, how to hold good eye contact and how to judge whether the other person wants to be kissed at the end of the evening.

"The first meeting is crucial in making or breaking a relationship. The workshops are all about giving people the confidence to make their date a success. They go through the whole process of what is acceptable to talk about and when it is appropriate to try to take things to the next level," the Telegraph quoted Spalton as saying.

He believes that chat-up lines can turn out to be the key to make someone laugh and feel relaxed, but at times some Christian jokes might not be well received.

According to Christian Connections, one should avoid using one-liners such as "You float my ark" and "I didn't believe in predestination until tonight".

Jackie Elton, founder of the agency, said that the number of people using Christian dating sites has doubled over the past year.

"There's been a massive rise in internet dating sites as Christians are struggling to find a partner in church. They know what they want, but many congregations are too small or have a gender imbalance that makes it really difficult for them. As a result they are not getting the kind of experience they need and that's why they are turning to the workshops," she said.

The Rev Richard Cunningham, the director of the University and College Christian Fellowship, said that with the fragmentation of the society, many people now lack the necessary skills to date successfully.

"With the growth of the internet, people are losing social skills we used to take for granted, and have drifted away from being able to read signals," he said.

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TV star Jan Leeming explained why she placed an advert on an internet dating site.

Leeming said her friends were in couples and she had no-one to accompany her to functions. She added that perhaps she had seemed unapproachable during her time as a newsreader.

The 66-year-old, who said she was not looking for anything serious, posted a photograph of herself under the name "Cheetahgirl", describing herself as "fun-loving and adventurous".

The advert was placed by several-times married Leeming on a website called Millionaire Cupid.

She said: "I get invitations to events in London and around and, whilst I have a lot of good friends here, they are couples so there is no-one free to accompany me to functions.

"My lovely son Jonathan often acts as my escort but he has his own life to lead and can't spend all his spare time accompanying his mother.

"I now give talks on cruise ships and am able to take a relative or friend and Jonathan can't always take leave to be with me.

"This week we're flying to Tenerife for the ITV2 Celebair programme - it's fun and, as a mother, I love to go out on his arm, but he has a life too, so when a friend suggested I look at Kindred Spirits I thought it might be fun and could widen my circle of friends.

"I'm not looking for anything serious, although over the years I've learnt never to say never, so watch this space."

Leeming, who supports cheetah conservation, said she had had some lovely email conversations and all the people appeared to be professional high achievers, many with interesting backgrounds.

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Desperately seeking a mate: Hopeless romantic seeks mature, well-rounded, traditional partner. Must be bold, yet not too sweet.

OK, so the request isn't that flashy, and it's not a personal ad. But small wineries and home winemakers are increasingly turning to the Internet in search of grapes - that's right, it's a grape dating site - and Washington grape growers are finding a steady stream of business heading into the harvest season.

"When people call us looking for grapes, they're delighted when they find out we have the site," said Vicky Scharlau, executive director of the Washington Association of Wine Grape Growers. "We try desperately not to get in the middle of buying and selling relationships, but that is one way we can post that need without getting entangled or ensnared in any business deals. It's really a service to the industry."

Washington state is the second-leading producer of premium wine, behind California, with an industry valued at $3 billion. More than 31,000 acres of wine grapes have been planted, ranking them No. 11 among the state's crops in 2006.

Growers expect to exceed last year's record crop of 127,150 tons crushed, but a cool, late spring has pushed harvest anywhere from five days to two weeks behind schedule, depending on location.

Warm days and cool nights have resulted in temperature shifts as great as 40 degrees in some areas - ideal conditions for fruit with well-balanced sugar and acid levels.

Wineries already are comparing the harvest to 1999, which has always been held up as a stellar year for wine, Scharlau said.

"The growers are looking at harvesting fruit that will have great flavor but at lower alcohol levels, which is great," she said.

Many growers sign contracts to sell their grapes to larger, commercial wineries, but plenty still want to sell to small wineries and hobbyists. That may be one reason the Washington growers' grape dating site is drawing more interest.

"They're both fun. The demands are different, but they all want quality, so that's not a problem," said Patricia O'Brien, a third-generation farmer whose been growing wine grapes since 1991 and sells online any grapes she hasn't already sold by contract.

"That site is just very good, I've found, for the small wineries and home winemakers that want to make a little wine but not a whole lot," she said. "They're often city-folk, but it's wonderful."

The grape dating site brings results. Last week, O'Brien received two telephone calls from home winemakers, one in Spokane and the other in Mount Vernon. The latter bought 800 pounds of red grapes - lemberger, cabernet sauvignon and syrah - for six different hobbyists.

Her 15 varieties, grown on 56 acres, sell out every year.

"Selling the grapes is not a problem," she said.

Doyle Hughes of Gig Harbor, a facilities manager at McChord Air Force Base, makes about 100 cases a year for family and friends as a hobby. He freely admits he enjoys the "romance" of the industry, as well as being able to participate in the harvest.

This will be the first year his Stampede Cellars produces white wine, after he trolled online for pinot gris and viognier grapes.

"We came close on some pinot gris, but we couldn't dance fast enough after (the grower) found us. We had already committed to some chardonnay," Hughes said.

Twenty-two hundreds pounds, in fact, from another grower.

"We want to move from variety to variety every couple of years, and you often have to change grape growers to do that," he said.

Ted Judd, 64, of Vin du Bois Winery in Boise, Idaho, is still searching for his perfect match.

Judd has been making wine for 15 years. It's not just his full-time job, but his passion, "my whole life," he said.

Which explains why he was crushed to learn the local vineyard from which he'd been buying grapes for years had been purchased by another winery.

"I love big, thick, rich Bordeaux blends. They can make such great wines, but not if you don't have the grapes," Judd said.

He turned to Washington's grape dating service in search of reds, to no avail. He's had seven replies - with no matches - but he says he'll keep looking until he finds exactly what he covets.

"I want somebody who already knows what she's looking for," Judd said. "I'm an older guy, so I want some mature grapes."

 

 

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DEAR DR. BROTHERS: I am a nice lady in my early 40s. I have been divorced for almost 10 years now, and I enjoy my social life. I really am not too interested in meeting Prince Charming, yet I have an idea in the back of my mind that he is out there somewhere. In the meantime, I would like to continue just looking. My problem is with the dating Web sites. I find that most of them want you to pinpoint what "department" you want your information to be in. There usually is a choice of Just Dating, Getting Serious or Brief Encounters. You get the idea. I am really Just Dating, but since the Encounters in these places consistently attract more people, that's where I usually hang my hat. Does this sound appropriate to you? -- T.R.

DEAR T.R.: My dear, to me the whole idea of meeting people on the Internet is kind of strange, but I am trying to adjust to the realities of the new century! I'm sure you are, too. Apparently the days of having someone introduce two friends is rapidly fading, if it still exists at all. But enough reminiscing. I think it sounds as though you have access to the information you need to make the system work for you. That's fine, but you need to always observe the safety rules about meeting people with whom you chat online. Be careful; meet in a public place -- you know the drill.

In terms of the three categories, I suppose you may meet more men in Encounters, but you need to examine what kind of people they are before you casually agree to go out with them. I imagine that category might contain many married men looking to cheat on their wives, or rather shallow creatures on the prowl for a one-night stand. Right in the beginning, make it known to all that you are not one of those, and that you are interested in dating, not just chatting.

DEAR DR. BROTHERS: I hope you don't think this is a trivial problem, because it is causing a lot of friction between me and my fiance. We are pretty much opposites in personality, which actually works out fine, but I really can't stand his pets, and I don't think I could tolerate his two dogs after we move in together and get married. I haven't told him this, but so far I've tried to just avoid the animals and ignore them when they bark and jump on me. He loves these two rambunctious mutts; I like quiet animals. But I don't want this to wreck our relationship. Help! -- L.B.

DEAR L.B.: This is not a trivial problem -- it's a train wreck waiting to happen. Your fiance loves his "mutts" and will want you all to be one big, happy family, where you all love each other. That's the way he's dreaming about it. You, on the other hand, are wondering how you're going to get out of the deal with the dogs. Someone is going to end up very unhappy, unless you honestly face this issue now and decide what to do, as a couple. Tell him how you feel, and know that he probably will stick up for his dogs and wonder why you can't love them as he does.

If you don't think you can warm up to the dogs with their current behavior, even after living with them for a while, you need to confess this to your husband-to-be. If they truly are unruly, why don't you suggest some obedience classes for the dogs? As a gesture of good will, maybe you could take them to the class yourself, and get to know them and have them get used to obeying you. The result could be two much more well-behaved animals and two owners who enjoy them. I think it would be a great way to start your marriage: replacing a potentially ugly atmosphere with one of loving compromise. If you're not willing to go that far, you'd better tell him now so that he can decide which of you is going to have to go.

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No matter how you do it, when you do it, you should put some thought into it. Yes, don't just go bounding off on a date. Take a few minutes to think about what lays ahead and have some sort of a plan.

To help you with your quest to find "the one," below is a list of popular tips to have a positive dating experience, or at least help you on your way. After all, you can't be held responsible for the other person.

. Keep an open mind. Don't have a strident, unattainable (do some self-examination) shopping list. After all, you can't coach chemistry.

. Psych yourself up for dating. Look forward to the experience and commit to giving it a real go, but don't take it too seriously. That often ends up looking like desperation and will make the occasional letdowns a lot worse.

. Decide if you have specific dating goals. Ask yourself why it is you are dating. Do you just want to get out more or do you see yourself married in the near future?

. Even if the sparks don't fly, don't be discouraged. You just might make a great new friend who could potentially introduce you to "the one."

. Don't give away the farm too early. This means sexually and emotionally.

. Physically, pull yourself together. Get in shape, do some grooming and styling. Looking and feeling better will help boost your confidence.

. Think positively and hang out with those who think positively. Don't get dating advice from the buddy who is going through a bitter divorce.

. Get out and do things. It's hard to date - well, real people anyway - when you never leave the house.

. Review the dating you're doing. Are you happy? Do you need a break?

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I appreciate my husband for many reasons. He's kind, funny, smart, talented and he's still here.

The latter is important because if he weren't, I would be single and you know what that means?

Yes, better night's sleep, less laundry and cracker boxes in the cupboard that actually have crackers in them. But while those are attractive, they don't outweigh the scary idea of dating.

I wonder, is there a personal ad code for bossy, opinionated, neat-freak, misanthropic, virgo woman?

So, where does someone find a date these days?

One guy I know is dating a woman half his age that he met at a dog park. "What do you talk about?" I asked him, unable to disguise my 40ish-woman-finds-an-older-friend-is-dating-a-woman-barely-old-enoug h-to-order-a-beer-in-Baltimore tone.

"Um, our dogs?" he said, adding she seems really mature for her age.

Translation: She's hot.

Another friend turned to a dating service to help make a love connection.

But soon he began to wonder if there were more women than men in the company's database as he was inundated with a steady stream of set-ups.

"It was exhausting," he said, sighing.

One friend embraced the online-dating world -- a world that has numerous specialty sites -- like a love life-preserver ring. In fact, his frequent dips into the online pool became known as his catch- and-release program. He never met his soulmate online, she instead appeared thanks to an introduction from his neighbours.

According to a woman I chat with at my gym, a rabbi at a wedding she attended told the assembled that the bride and groom had met on Lavalife. Apparently that's not shocking news, as the same rabbi told the wedding guests the majority of the people he has married in the last couple years have met via online dating or other services.

"It's rewarding we have lots of success stories, lots of happy clients," said relationship counsellor Rosalyn Dietz of Compatible Introductions (millionairecupid.com). "Success for us means relationships, living together, getting married and kids."

So happy are her clients that Dietz reports that last year alone there were 36 marriages between Compatible Introductions clients.

Currently, Dietz's company has 6,500 registered clients, 1,800 of those active. To join, you are looking at a base rate of around $1,000.

So who signs up for these services?

"We have all kinds of people," says Dietz. "But they are all looking for long-term relationships. They're not just into dating."

"There is no norm in this business," says Brownridge, who is excitedly waiting for the first It's Just Lunch baby to be born. "What they do have in common, though, is they're all busy. That's why companies like us are in business."

 

Do

 

- Make your partner feel comfortable

- Keep the conversation flowing

- Be an interesting date

- Be on time

- Be yourself

- Be confident

- Show respect to your date's suggestions

- Dress for the occasion

- Take time to listen

- Do focus on the person you are with

- Take a pro-active approach. It does not matter who calls who

 

Don't

 

- Talk exclusively about yourself

- Be late

- Talk about an ex-relationship at the first meeting

- Try to be something you are not

- Show disrespect for your partner's beliefs

- Forget to thank them for the date

- Ask too many personal questions

 

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The Internet is playing a big role today in almost every aspect of a human's life. We search for information from the net, we study from e-learning programmes, we use emails to keep in touch with people for both personal and business purposes, while many become hard core fans of the popular chat engines like MSN and Skype.

It's no longer surprising internet has also become a tool for singles to search for their right matches and soul mates. Some directly login to the online dating sites, while many start from social networking internet services such as MySpace, facebook.com, Millionairecupid.com, etc.

Despite many harms known to exist in the cyberworld - like people giving false identities or women reportedly lured into sexual abuses or even murders - a lot of singles are still willing to jump in and the number of online dating sites as well as their members have kept increasing over the years.

April sparks, senior vice-president of Sanook Online Limited, which runs the matchmaking web site seekwealthy.com, says after 10 years of service, the number of users have increased from 30,000 people at the beginning to almost one million at present.

Among them, 300,000 people are active members, meaning they are still using the service within 90 days. The number of users online is about 6,000 per day.

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Why online dating?

April said the Internet has an increased role in love relationship as much it has in other life matters.

"Think of what most people do when they arrive at the office every morning - make a cup of coffee, turn on the computer, check emails and browse web sites. If they are feeling lonely or are heartbroken, then tapping into the online dating sites is a likely choice. The way of life today makes the Internet closer to people, and online matchmaking services easier to access," says April.

 He adds that online dating opens a new channel for the singles to find someone to fulfill their empty lives.

''In the past, it used to be difficult for Thais to meet someone out of their life circles. So we've seen many doctors marry nurses, suppliers marry purchasers, salespersons marry marketing people, or judges marry prosecutors. But the internet helps you break through the old narrow circles of friends to meet a variety of people you've never been involved,'' he explains.

He cites a successful case of a Muslim woman living in Chiang Mai who married a Muslim from the deep South after meeting on Thaimate.

''Had they not logged into the web site, they would have missed the chance to meet each other,'' says April.

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What's a crush?

The appeal of online dating lies with the excitement when you are connected to someone you do not know. For some, chatting online with a stranger living a long distance away may allow them to better express their own selves and attitudes without caring for each other's physical appearances.

One more good point of online dating is that you can search through the web until you find the one you are contented with. Then you may start making contact, wait for the response, and pursue the relationship if you click with that person. If not, you still can quit and keep looking for a better match. Everything depends on your judgement.

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Rules for online dating

As every coin has two sides, online dating also has its pros and cons. Since this kind of relationship develops in a cyberworld, it is difficult for us to know what is and is not true, or whether the persons we talk to are really good or bad. Once we're engaged in online dating, there are a lot of things we have to take into account, and here are some rules for the cyber love.

- Be careful in pursuing a relationship

The risk of online dating is that you can be wooed with sweet words or eloquence that appear on the computer screen, not a personality or appearance that are easier to judge.

It is recommended that you go back to those previous emails since you first contacted each other. Read them carefully. The messages between the lines will tell you something about your date. Has he or she been true to you? And you'll get some clues about what way your relationship is heading for.

- First, clarify the age and status.

Age and marital status are what to be clarified from the beginning. A tricky or dishonest guy will speak hesitantly, or not tell you straightly. If that happens, it's better to click ''delete'' that person so as to screen out those married guys or playboys who only want to play games with you.

- Pay caution to an overly extroverted person

Be careful if your date is so quick to disclose his personal information. This kind of people will push you around and make every attempt to rush the relationship. But things that begin too fast usually end easily too.

Note that online dating is a mutual communication between two persons. It's better to give your relationship some more time, let it grow naturally and gradually.

- Don't rush your relationship

One good point of online dating is that you can take time with your date as long as you want, be it one week, one month or even a year. Nobody can rush you. Make every careful step in your relationship, otherwise a mistake can easily happen. Don't rush to meet a man or a woman just after the first few talks. He or she may not be a person you imagine.

- Be honest to your date

Be yourself and true to your date. Do not overstate your personality to make it sound as if you were a hero or an angel. Your partner may have over-expectation on you, and that may trouble your relationship when you both come out of the cyberworld.

- When having a date, do not go to private places

Once you click with someone on the net, going for a date is unavoidable in most cases as it's a way for both sides to better know each other. Bringing along a friend might not be very useful in case you want to get to know each other well.

For your first date, make sure you'll see each other in a public place. If anything wrong happens, you can ask for helps or run away from the guy.

- Ask yourself what you really want

Study your own feeling. Think of what you really need, a soulmate, a friend, or you're just playing games for fun. If you are serious enough, go on with your date. But in case you already have someone and only want to exercise your charm, keep it to the limit. When you have an online dating, it means you already step into someone else's world, so be careful of each other's feelings, otherwise it can get you in trouble.

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